Recovery is about meeting your parts that struggle
Building a relationship with them with curiosity and compassion.
The inner 'tug-of-war'
Why befriending your addiction is a better way
Most of us spend years trying to 'fix' ourselves by pulling harder on the rope. We think if the Manager just works more or the Firefighter just stops reacting, we'll be okay. But the harder we pull, the more exhausted we get. This diagram shows why the struggle exists, and where the path to peace actually starts.
Diagram adapted from the work of Cece Sykes, LCSW, and the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model.
From Conflict to Connection
Discovering the 8 qualities of your core Self
Healing doesn’t happen by getting rid of your parts. It happens when you step into the center of the circle. When we lead from our core, what we call the Self, the internal battle begins to quiet. You move from being driven by your addiction to being led by your wisdom.
Compassion
Curiosity
Clarity
Calm
Connected
Creativity
Courage
Confidence
How We Work Together
Practical steps to move from being driven by addiction to being led by Self
Unblending
Creating breathing room
We start by learning how to separate 'You' from the 'Urge.' This creates the space needed to look at your thoughts instead of from them.
BeFriending
Meeting parts that protect you
Instead of fighting your addiction, we get curious. We learn the story of your protectors and what they are trying to save you from.
Unburdening
Releasing the weight you carry
When your protectors finally feel safe, we can reach the parts carrying old wounds. Once those wounds heal, the addiction loses its job.
