The Process
Map Your
Internal System
We start with a free, low-pressure 20-minute chat. We’ll discuss what you’re experiencing, identify the conflicting parts driving your urges, and ensure IFS-informed coaching is the right fit for your journey.
Zero obligation
Safe & confidential
Uncover Protective Intent
In our 1-on-1 sessions, we move past willpower and white-knuckling. Instead of fighting your urges, we connect directly with the exhausted parts of you that reach for escape, understanding why they react and earning their trust.
Compassion guidance
No shame or judgement
Lead With
Lasting Peace
As your parts learn to trust your core "Self," internal conflict settles. You'll gain practical tools to navigate life’s triggers with clarity, calm, and genuine self-leadership, putting an end to the cycle for good.
Sustainable change
True internal alignment
The Cycle of Addiction vs.
The Path to Peace
Why white-knuckling fails, and how understanding your internal system changes everything.
The Exhausting Cycle (Before)
The Self-led Path (After)
White-Knuckling & Willpower
Constantly fighting your urges and trying to force discipline, only to inevitably hit a wall and repeat the cycle.
Internal War
Feeling like two different people are fighting for control inside you, leading to shame and frustration.
Managing Symptoms
Trying to temporarily ignore or suppress the urges, hoping they will just go away.
Understanding the Intent
Recognizing that the part of you seeking escape isn't "bad", it's an exhausted protector trying to manage overwhelming pain.
Building Internal Trust
Creating a safe environment where your conflicting parts can stop fighting and start working together.
Lasting Self-Leadership
Moving past the struggle by coming into direct, compassionate contact with your parts, resulting in deep, sustainable peace.
Meet Jeremy Hakansson:
Global ICF-ACC Certified Coach
"For years, I was caught in the exact same cycle you might be in right now."
I believed that if I just tried harder, stayed more disciplined, or forced myself to white-knuckle through the urges, the struggle would finally end. But every time I relied on sheer willpower, I ended up right back where I started, exhausted, frustrated, and feeling like two different people were fighting inside me.
Everything changed when I stopped fighting my internal system and started understanding it.
Real, lasting recovery isn't about defeating a "bad" part of yourself. It’s about recognizing that the parts driving your urges are actually exhausted protectors doing the only job they know how to do. When you build trust with these parts instead of shaming them, the internal conflict finally settles.
Today, as an ICF-ACC certified and IFS-informed coach, my role isn't to fix you, it's to guide you in stepping into your own Self-Leadership, so you can build lasting peace from the inside out.
What You Get
Understand Your Protective Urges
Instead of fighting your "bad" behaviours, we look beneath the surface. We identify the protective parts of your system that drive these urges, helping you understand their intent without being overwhelmed by them.
Build Internal
Trust
We move beyond traditional willpower. As an ACC-certified coach, I guide you in building a relationship based on trust and safety between your "Self" and the parts of you that feel exhausted or desperate.
The
Result
This is where the fighting ends. You return to a state of Self-Leadership, where you can navigate life’s challenges with clarity, compassion, and the lasting peace you’ve been looking for.
Curiosities and Concerns
